Why am I different?
Updated: Feb 9
When people discover I have had numerous extraordinary experiences, the first statement they invariably make is, "Wow, you must be different-I don't have them!" I know I am different, yet inexplicable phenomena has been part of my life since I was pre-verbal. This is my "normal." Yet, it’s tough going through life having experiences that are considered weird or unusual. Research indicates that experience-prone personality types are not crazy or pathologically disturbed individuals. Rather, those possessing such characteristics are predisposed to have extraordinary experiences.
Experiencers have innate personality traits which include: intelligence, imaginativeness, assertiveness, forthrightness, venturesomeness, self-assuredness, and self-sufficiency. Additionally, they demonstrate an inclination to be creative, curious, insightful, incorruptible, iconoclastic, non-conforming, and anti-authoritarian. Many are abstract-random, or "big picture thinkers," who have trouble completing logical-sequential tasks (this may explain why my brain almost exploded while I simultaneously cried my way through Algebra II!).
Numerous experiencers exhibit uncommonly high levels of sensitivity, not only in the emotional realm, but also in the physiological, cognitive, altered states of consciousness, and transpersonal (“metaphysical,”) realms as well.
Researcher Kenneth Ring determined that encounter-prone personalities consistently report traumatic events (i.e., accidents, injuries, illnesses, and/or psychological shock) and/or abusive childhoods (including physical, psychological, verbal, or sexual abuse), a negative home environment, a susceptibility to experience non-pathological alternative realities, and mild dissociation. It is important to emphasize that the dissociation associated with the anomalous-prone personality is non-pathological in nature. In fact, mild dissociation is experienced by most stable, emotionally healthy adults. For example, how many of us have driven on the highway, not recalling the the number of exits we passed while ‘zoning out’?
It is also important to keep in mind that all humans are energetic beings. While at rest, the average person produces approximately 100 watts of power! Everything in the entire universe is energetically vibrating, albeit, at different frequencies. Extraordinary experiences occur in higher vibrational states-beyond the bounds of everyday frequency. The energy of experience-prone individuals seems to vibrate at higher frequencies, compatible with those of the 'spiritual realm.'
Let's compare this with a dog whistle, which is inaudible to human ears. A dog whistle emits sound frequencies in the ultrasonic range, approximately 54Hz (Hz=Hertz, which measures frequency). The general range of healthy human hearing is 20Hz. Thus, experiencers, like dogs, (figuratively speaking of course!) have the ability to sense or "pick up" frequencies which lay beyond the norm.
Let's re-address the initial statement, "You must be different," and examine it in two ways. First, "different" is often associated with negative connotations. I prefer the words unique, distinctive, or special. Secondly, although not everyone is an experiencer, we are all very special individuals, with distinctly unique gifts to offer the world. As a near-death experiencer, and close friend of mine says:
Your uniqueness is your value and your value is your contribution on this earthly journey. It doesn’t matter who you are or who you aren’t, which should come as a huge relief. If you are here on this planet, you are valuable!
If you question why am I different? We cover this subject matter such as "Embracing Our Uniqueness, and "The New Me: Transformative After Effects in our new book; Convergence: The Interconnection of Extraordinary Experiences.